Not much news

Brian again.   With the sense of urgency rising, family has been coming to see Julie.  It’s really taxing on her, but also really important.  It’s tough.  Some folks have driven two days just to spend such a little bit of time with her.  Then she pretty much sleeps the rest of the day and the next day too. (Not to paint the picture too grim — she has almost zero energy but I don’t think there’s anything imminent about to happen.)   Her 90 year old father made the trip, thanks to a guardian angel that dropped everything to escort him.  A brother and sister-in-law, too. Two uncles and an aunt tomorrow.  Visits are hard, but family is important.

Being far away, the family hasn’t had the benefit of seeing the changes in her day by day.  They tell me they’re shocked at the decline.  Me too.  We were still going out to the movies last month.  Today she wanted to go upstairs, but aborted the mission on the third step as requiring more energy than she had.  She doesn’t answer the phone or the door — she’s usually not awake enough for conversation and it’s fifteen steps to the door.

And yet, amidst all this, she’s watching out for me.  She tries not to call me in the night, because she doesn’t want to bother me.  On the weekends, she’ll lay in her bed awake to let me sleep in.  I tell her to call me anytime, but unless it’s urgent, she won’t if she thinks I’m sleeping.  How can anyone be in the final weeks or months of their life, and still be thinking of others?  What a wonderful, caring woman I married.

Julie said I should tell everyone that the posts will probably appear less often as there won’t be much to report, but that you’re not to worry.  See?  She’s watching out for you, too.

Take care, everyone.  -B.

2 Responses to “Not much news”

  1. 1 Laura Illige Harvey
    September 1, 2010 at 6:01 am

    Much love to you both – I hope the hospice folks are taking care of you too, Brian. This must be incredibly hard. Thinking of you both daily, Laura

  2. 2 Carrie
    September 1, 2010 at 8:50 am

    Thinking of you both often. Doing my bests to send smiles and love your way. Thank you, Brian, for the much appreciated update. Thank you, Julie, for caring for all of us. You are both in my prayers. There are so many things I want to say and do for you, but I feel crippled with sadness. All I can say is that it’s not fair. My world is broken, you are in pain, and I cannot fix things. Still, I hold fast to Love — “..[Love] bears all things, hopes all things, endures all things. Love never fails.” [1 Cor 7-8a]
    With much love.
    –Carrie M.

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